Hi, I posted a post yesterday so sorry for posting again! For some reason this week my mind is overthinking everything! I have been with my partner for coming up to 2.5 years, he has two sons who are four and and six.
Things are great pretty much most of the time just sometimes I freak out when I stop and overthink everything! We don't live together but I'm at his 5/6 times a week. He sees his boys 2/3 times a week. I am really lucky in that I get on great with them and they have been so welcoming to me. As they are growing up he has times where he finds is really hard dropping them back after a weekend and he's missing them loads. I understand it must be so hard but the hardest thing for me is not the children its how to deal with his emotions of it.
As our relationship has developed I have without really realizing it found myself being at his a lot when they are there. I normally stay at mine when he has them for one night in the week to give them that time together but whereas before on a weekend I would do my own thing for one of the days I seem to be with them a lot of the time. I guess I enjoy their company and don't want to miss out on anything! At the same time though my partner has mentioned in the last couple of days that most of the time he wants us to do things as a 4 but sometimes he may want a couple of hours/half a day with them by himself. Deep down I know this is completely understandable and also important for the children but part of me feels a bit upset and that he's pushing me away. Which I think is what's led me to overthinking everything this week.
Is anyone else with a partner who has children and they don't have children themselves? Do you try and make sure they have time to themselves as well as be involved some of the time?
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uka888 · 31/01/2017 09:34
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