You frequently read on here that the second family are put upon for childcare / have to pay too much to the EX for child maintenance/ the EX does not work / if the EX works expecting the other parent to provide childcare appropriately / reducing maintenance if they are looking after the kids during holidays etc etc.
So what do the second family want?
( other than the EX and the children to drop off the face of the planet!)
I am being roundly castigated for working and providing for my DCs. Went back to work at 8 months after first and 8 months after second. Initially did 2 days per week - with DCs in nursery and then 3 days per week once the first went to school.
Used child minder for drop off and PU 3 days week and did the rest my self.
Now both at school I do 3 days in work and 2 days flexi at home - brill employer.
For this I am being slagged off on social media by Exs DP, for failing my children, putting my career first, obviously regretting my poor parenting decisions etc etc.
Forgetting that EX did not pay any maintenance for his DCs for the first 18 months and now pays well below the CSA minima. ( 8 ONs last year with their DF!)
I am damned if I do and damned if I don't! Have to say the constant criticism of me to mutual friends and family is extremely tiring and disheartening when all yu are trying to do is bring up your kids to the best of your ability on your own.
( I do not use social media - this comes from friends who do, the anti has upped, since before Xmas and has been awful. I do not respond as have no mechanism to defend myself - or one that I wish to engage in)
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workingmumsarebad · 06/01/2017 17:28
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