hi, I have been in a relationship for over a year with my boyfriend. He currently lives with his nan, and it feels like a natural progression for him to move in. I have two children from 2 relationships. My eldest speaks to her dad once a week, and my youngest has no communication with his father at all. (His choice). My youngest (whos 2) adores my boyfriend, and they have a real bond. My boyfriend is also brilliant with my eldest. its clear to see that both of my children crave a consent male figure in the house and are elated when hes here. I'm just slightly nervous. I havnt lived with a man for a long time and he doesn't earn much money. Not that I care about money, I just don't want to struggle even more. I am a part time student and on benefits atm.as much as my eldest loves him being here, her behaviour in the last 6 months has noticeably nose dived. I suspect its just her age, being 6, but I also cant help thinking it might have something to do with the unsettled home atm. with my boyfriend staying 3 nights and 4 days week, and the readjustment when hes not there for the other 4 nights. I am thinking maybe I should hurry up and move him in so we can all settle, or backing off a little because a year isn't really a long time is it??
Its such a huge step, and I feel that one child wants it more then the other, but maybe that's just because one of the children needs it more? I'm not sure what to do for the best.
Any advice, or wise words would be great :)
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ashashash · 08/12/2016 20:06
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