Hello,
I suppose I am looking for some opinions and advice please. Some background first. My husband was previously married and has four children with his ex-wife. They are mid twenties to mid thirties, his ex-wife cheated on him and he left, then we got together 2 years after that and seventeen years ago. My husband and I have 2 children, the older one was 15 yesterday and has Aspergers, and the younger one is 12.
So, enough of the background. Yesterday was my older son's birthday and he received nothing from any of them, no cards, no messages, nothing. This was not unusual, neither he nor my other son have ever received much, sometimes they get a card from one older sister, but that is all. But he has virtually no friends, due to the Aspergers, and yesterday I had to listen to him, on his birthday, tell me how lonely he is.
Obviously, this is heart-breaking, and all I can think about is all the presents I have bought them, the family holidays I have organised and paid for that they have been on, and the money that I have given to these step-children. Incidentally, I have never received anything from any of them over the 17 years, but I am not concerned for myself.
So, I have decided I am done and I will no longer have any contact with them, my husband of course can do whatever he choses, but I suspect he will chose to support me, and this is what worries me. Am I being too harsh, or am I justified? Incidentally, there have been gentle conversations when their thoughtlessness has been pointed out, which is why I can only assume they are just plain selfish.
Any thoughts would be appreciated.
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Clariana · 09/10/2016 15:27
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