Without going too much in to the background of the situation my fiancé and I split 2 years ago when dd was 10 months old. He had been cheating for 3 years with various women the last one being his ex who he has now been in a relationship with since we split. It was hard to deal with at the time -dd having to be around her from day one. But he had always seen dd every Saturday 9-7 . He is in the armed forces so is not around during the week.
3 weeks ago his gf and I got in to an altercation via what's app which resulted in her claiming dd says I hurt her and she is bullied by me. She then went on to threaten me with loosing her if social services found I had laid a finger on her. Just to clarify here. I am the most anti- smacking parent I know. I have never threatened her with a smack nor do I shout at her. We have an amazing relationship and she is very well behaved. I know for certain dd has not said this.
My first reaction was to contact dd dad- his response was "sort it out between the two of you" he did not grasp he seriousness of the situation and the fact that she has claimed dd had said such things- she is almost 3.
I told him and his family that I would not allow her to be around dd any longer as I am concerned that she is saying things to her about mommy hurting her.
My ex refused to agree to this and as such I told him that if he would not agree to keep her way from dd contact would not be taking place. He had no contact with her yesterday as he refused to agree to keep his gf away from dd. he and his family have admitted that her accusations were lies and dd has never said such things but am I being unreasonable stopping his gf having contact with dd?
Btw it is an on/off volatile relationship.
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Rachelly123 · 21/08/2016 21:19
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