I need to reach out and hope that someone can help me. My husband's estranged adolescent drug addict daughter passed away leaving behind her 2 year old daughter who was being cared for by my husband's ex-wife. We were left with 2 options.. either my husband and his ex-wife jointly adopt or my husband and I adopt the child. Considering my husbands bitter divorce from his ex, I consented to the two of us adopting the child. The problem is that since the adoption my husbands entire life revolves around his grandchild/daughter. We have had very few couple time since her arrival. He talks so sweetly to her and spoils her while he treated my 2 children (who have since left home) as if they were lesser beings. I am so tired of trying to talk to him wherein he says that there is no problem and that I hate the child. If the child is naughty and I say anything, he will side with her and say so in front of the child (who is 5 years old). He wants me to be the perfect mother to her and the perfect wife to him but what about me? I am not going to compete with a child, that is for sure. I feel like a prisoner in this situation. He watches my every move including checking my mobile messages and calls. All I do everyday is go to work and come home where I cook and clean and then still criticises me for not making time for the child. The child manipulates him and he doesn't even see it. He must feel guilty for not being on talking terms with his daughter when she died but why does our relationship have to suffer. I hope I am making sense. I just don't know what to co anymore. I am so miserable. I want this to work and I want to do so from my heart
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user1471525759 · 18/08/2016 14:32
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