My oh has his DC half the week. I always leave them to time with their dad but also do a few bits with them too so it's a fine balance.
My problem is they ignore. Not blatantly, but if I speak to them it's like they don't take notice of me.
I will ask his 3 year old if he can go get his clothes (from his bed) and he will ignore me. I will ask him a number of times again and he just doesn't listen - it's like I'm not even talking. Sometimes when I ask he will just shout "no" in a very stroppy slightly angry way. I often have to go and mention to oh that he isn't listening to me. It's the same at tea time. I'll give him his food and he refuses to eat it. I went to a friends the other day with him and he played up and just wouldn't listen to me. In the end the friend had to step in.
With his 5 year old it's a bit different. If I asked him to get his clothes he would, but for other things he wouldn't. The other day I asked him not to do something and he carried on. My oh is reinforcing what I'm saying so "apple pie has said not to xxxx". It just doesn't seem to work. If I take him to the park he will flatly refuse to leave when I say it's time. If he wants something at home he will walk past me and ask his dad - he kind of makes me feel non existent at times.
I've been involved in their life for nearly 1.5 years and it's just became more noticeable as I become more involved in their lives. Perhaps I just want everything to be harmonious but it's totally normal??
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Iloveapplepie · 12/08/2016 10:03
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