My DSD is 23 and is a lovely, bubby young lady, but, she has made some irresponsible choices that have lead to her losing jobs and rented accomodation. She is very much a 'party girl'; fine is she can afford it and get to work.
She is back living with her mum and things have been tense, she has stayed out late several nights this fortnight and missed work a few times too. Her mum has now fed up of bailing her out and effectively enabling her lifestyle. DH and i feel we should offer her a matress/sofa here (no spare room) as we don't want her homeless, equally we feel like saying if partying with her friends is so important she can stay with them.
My issue with her staying with us are pretty selfish, we don't want her staying up/rolling in at all hours when we're all in bed by 11 ish ( 2 primary DC) here. We are not 100% sure we trust her in the home when we are at work/school. We love and care for her and if she was a teenager we'd feel differently but i feel at her age she needs to realise that nights out, take aways, festivals have to be funded by getting into work and earning. Any experience anyone?
Her mum is giving her the push needed to get her arse into gear you guys need to support her. It's very well going out and having fun but she should maintain her work ethic in the process. I have a friend almost 30 who seems to jump from job to job been to college numberous times but never completed one course. There's a time when she needs to stand on her own two feet. My young SIL is excately the same but doesn't even attempt to work but will sponge money off everyone and anyone.
Agree that it's important to have a chat with her mum and present a united front if that is appropriate (and it sounds like it is, from what you say).
I would expect an 18-year-old to take a little time to get used to managing social life and work but by 23 life does (and should) have more consequences. Everyone turns up hungover now and then but if it's becoming a lifestyle and costing her jobs then she's fast going nowhere.