so last weekend my boyfriend and I took his children for a meal. his oldest daughter (10) complained she was bored from the minute we got to the restaurant. she wanted to be on her phone. the younger son (8) was running off to look at a machine to win gadgets. he has been diagnosed as autistic. he asks his dad for £1. dad said no sit down. dad asked his daughter to stop looking at her phone. which she ignored as I was sat next to her. his daughter just wanted ribs for tea so her dad asked if they didn't have them what does she want instead. she said nothing. at that point my boyfriend said we are leaving we aren't having a meal. I was relived, as I was embarrased. his son was begging to stay saying he would sit down. my boyfriend said to the kids you will have your tea then your going to your rooms to bed. when we got back to his his kids had their tea. they were then able to do what they wanted. one on the Xbox the other playing in their room. the only people who missed out was me and their dad. we had to make do with a takeaway. I was looking forward to a meal.
their dad mentioned that when he looked around at other families they were all sat nicely enjoying the meal and why couldn't his kids do that. he said wished he could do what I could and leave. I couldn't wait to go home
we can't do the simple of things as his kids play up, they decide what we do or don't do. they decide what we eat, where we go. it is mainly his daughter. he wanted to watch wrestingling one weekend and his daughter took so long to get ready then couldn't walk in her shoes so they didn't go. the only time off my boyfriends gets is the weekends he has his kids so its not like he has other days to do things he wants to do
I told my boyfriend that his kids can be badly behaved quite often and he lets them get away with it. I believe for fear of upsetting them and them threatening not to see him. as well as he thinks they get a tought time at home as they have to look after their younger brother and spend all the time in their rooms. he said I am in the wrong for saying this as I'm slagging off his children. they don't respect adults or anyone for that matter they talk back, shout, argue with the dad. was I wrong to tell my boyfriend his kids are badly behaved and that he can sort it out but doesn't as he doesn't follow through with disciplining them?
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Chocolatefiend99 · 20/07/2016 21:35
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