I don't really know how to explain this other than is there any way DP can become responsible (legally) for my DS(4 yrs) without taking responsibility away from myself or DS biodad?
Biodad is a bit of a shit and only has supervised visits. He does see him sometimes but hasn't grown up enough to start putting DS first. E.g. didn't visit DS on birthday even though we invited him out with us to celebrate at a theme park. Instead, he went out with his work mates and got trashed. He then told everyone I stop him seeing his son.
The issue we all now have is that DS see's DP as his dad. He does get on with his biodad to an extent but DS has always known DP as his caretaker and will go to him over anyone else (aside from maybe me) for things.
If anything were to happen to me, for the sake of my son, I would like DP to have some form of contact with DS even if he doesn't live with him. Does anyone have any advice on this? Is there anyway to give DP parental responsibility of some sort as well as myself and biodad so that DS has rights to access to all three of us no matter what happens? We have been together 3 years and living together as a family for 1 year. I am hoping that if something were to happen to me that we will have been living together long enough that they wouldn't move DS from his home but I am worried that as he isn't married to me and isn't a biological parent that he would have no say in what happens if I am not there.
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