I don't really know where to begin but feel you need some background information.
Been with my DP for 3 years, I have a DD and he has 3 children all under 11. They are with us every weekend.
Their Mum left my DP for another man who she is still with now. The children don't like this man, he shouts, overrules their Mum, and in their opinion treats his children better than them. They often come to us on a Friday, hungry, tired, in worn, badly fitting clothes and spend the first hour or so telling us of all bad things that's happened in the last week. For example this week their Mums partner had lost his temper at breakfast and poured cereal and milk over the children's bowls, spilling majority on the table and pushed them in the children's direction. Their Mum allegedly told them all they don't deserve parents and they're animals also. We have tried to be as helpful as possible, offering to buy uniform and pay for school trips as well as the maintenence she already recieved from DP, but she often gets defensive and says she's capable herself, or that they haven't behaved well enough for the trips etc.
Over the past few months the youngest two espcecially have stated that they want to move in with us, the eldest is quite loyal to her Mum and said as much as she prefers it here, she'd like an equal amount of time between both of her parents. Now apart from them being at a different school to my daughter, we have no other issues with these requests. It can be done, whilst it wouldn't be easy by any means, any problems we could definitely sort out together.
So my question is, where do we go from here? Does my DP confront their Mum of their wishes or is there another path he should take?
I just wondered if anyone had been in a similar situation?
Any advice is appreciated, we just want what's best for them.
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Purplerain067 · 11/06/2016 09:35
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