Just a vent really, there's nothing that can be done.
Since DH and I met, it's been one long roller coaster in relation to his DCs, who are torn between their feuding parents. There have been false allegations, court cases, social service reports, arrests, police involvement.
The chaos seems to follow a pattern - DHs ex gets upset that the DCs have a relationship with DH, and takes action to prevent it, which DH fights with limited effect, then his exW appears to feel guilty, so pushes the DCs into getting in touch/spending time with him, and then it all begins again.
We have been in a low/no-contact period for the last two and a half years - after ex applied to court to stop all contact and remove PR because DHs DS felt scared of DH and refused to come to our home because of me.
From my perspective, the last 2 years have been fabulous, no drama - DH has dutifully taken his DS out for father/son activities every other weekend for a couple of hours as that's all that DHs ex wanted him to do, and his DS wasn't prepared to go against his mum. I've not seen DHs DS in that time, and he's not come to our home.
Over the last couple of weeks, DHs ex has increased contact with DH via emails and calls again. DH has had no direct contact with her for over a year, as his DS is now teenage and old enough to liaise with directly, so he ignored her calls, and hasn't replied to her emails.
DHs DS contacted him last night and asked if he could pop round to our house today to drop off a gift for DH. DHs exW will be giving DHs DS a lift to get here, so she is obviously supporting this. DH thinks it may even have been his exW idea and that she may even have bought the gift as he knows his DS doesn't have the independence/money etc to go shopping etc alone.
I have a feeling of dread. I fear that it's all going to begin again - the allegations, the drama, the disruption, just as I'd let my guard down and dared to think we may have been free of all that. I know it's the price I pay for marrying DH, and I wouldn't change it for the world, but it's so exhausting.
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TimeforaNNChange · 18/05/2016 11:22
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