I am a step mom to 3 kids. Not my first stint as step mom. I have two others I'm still in contact with and I'm grandparent to their kids. (I also have 5 of my own 4 adults and 1 x 16 yr old - I started young)!
However; I have never had such an experience with a bitter twisted ex as my husbands. She left him to live with the man she's now married to. There is such acrimony you'd think it was my husband that'd had the affair. 6 years of this so far. I'm lucky my step kids are really good kids but are so mixed up and well and truly caught in the crossfire. Mom appears to be unable to separate her relationship and negative feelings for her ex (my husband) from the relationship the kids should have with him. She wants them to feel the same way as she does towards him. It's been a constant battle. Their step dad emotionally bullies and has completely shattered the confidence of the youngest boy. Mum is blind to it and says he lies to us for our attention but this boy is broken. I'm at a loss as to what to do. We've gone as far as we can through court cafcass with section 7's. Can anyone shed any light on how we can deal with this as I honestly think these children need outside support as its a bigger issue than I can cope with and it really isn't what I signed up for but I love them and can't turn my back on them but I am really struggling to stay positive and I don't want to start slating and ranting about mom and step dad. My husband hasn't always reacted in the right way, I get his motives are good but communication is dire. How much should I just turn a blind eye to and not get involved in. There are days I dread them coming because we just don't know what we're going to get and what mess we have to untangle.
Help and advice greatly appreciated.
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Mwapphet · 14/05/2016 18:56
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