DSD is coming to the end of prep school. She's subject to a 50:50 contact schedule (reality is more like 40:60) and lives between two totally different homes. Her parents have no relationship to speak of, communicate only when they have to and just about manage to be civil.
DSD keen to board for senior school. I think she's fed up with the inconsistent contact schedule (Mum would rather keep the 50:50 on paper but regularly asks us to have DSD for extra nights and usually at the last minute) and I think probably fed up with her parents wildly different views on pretty much everything. A few of her good friends will be going on to boarding schools and I think she's decided it sounds like great fun.
We were a bit reluctant because it would mean her time with both parents would be drastically reduced but I'm wondering after meeting a lady whose own children were boarding following an acrimonious divorce at a drinks party a couple of weeks ago if it might actually be the best thing for DSD. This lady said described it as a sanctuary for her teenage kids away from their warring parents, step-parents and half siblings. I could see her point.
Anyone got any experience they can share? I suppose my main concern is that because of the 50:50, DSD is already somewhat estranged from both parents, nobody is truly 'on top of her' and she has said herself she doesn't feel like she belongs anywhere (both houses have 'full-time' children in them so she's the only one flitting between the two) and this could become even more of an issue if she's boarding full time. At the same time though I can see how boarding might give her term-time consistency, stability and independence that she's not going to get from 50:50. Thoughts?
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crusoe16 · 25/04/2016 08:43
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