I wasn't quite sure where to post this question! Been seeing DP for 3 months, we both got divorced last year and both have 2 DC's each between the ages of 7 and 4. About a month ago we arranged a playdate for them all to meet with us acting as 'friends' rather than as a 'couple'. It went really well, the kids all get along nicely with each other and with DP and me, our parenting styles are similar and we've had some time together since during the Easter hols. Things are relaxed and going well.
At what point, with kids of this age, do you establish as 'a couple'? His ex has already figured out that I'm not just a friend (and wants to meet me, which is fine) but I'm not sure if she's said anything to his DC yet. My ex doesn't know anything so far and my DC havn't mentioned anything except how they want more playdates with his DC.
Also, we were planning on having a sleepover within the next month (at the request of the DC) but I'm unsure about sleeping arrangements - would it be inappropriate for them to see us sharing a bed at this stage? I would be happy to sleep separately if the DC are likely to react badly to it.
I'm very cautious about pushing things too quick for the kids since we're only 3 months in and am certainly not filling a 'mum' role or looking to, but this is new to me and I want it to go well. Does anyone have any advice for me please?
Please or to access all these features
Please
or
to access all these features
Connect with other Mumsnetters here for step-parenting advice and support.
Step-parenting
New relationship plus kids - how fast is too fast?
13 replies
eternityleave · 14/04/2016 11:56
OP posts:
Please create an account
To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.