My DSD is 21 with 3 small children and another on the way. Her live-in boyfriend is currently in prison for the 2nd time. Everyone except hubby thinks she should have dumped him ages ago. Hubby thinks he'll change, but as he was re-arrested while out on tag I doubt it.
The problem is hubby is staying overnight with DSD 3-4 nights a week. Her mum only stays once a week because she has DSS ages 16-18 and lives further away. I've asked why hubby has to stay so often, he says it's to help DSD. He's not really doing much to help, though, as DSD children have gone to bed by the time he arrives and he doesn't take them to school in the morning. Also, he doesn't let me know he'll be staying there until early evening.
I'm disabled, mostly housebound and left on my own while hubby is away. Also he doesn't do any of the housework that I can't manage and I'm stuck here amidst filth. But that's a separate issue!
I've tried compromising by suggesting fixed nights when he stays there so at least I know what's going on. DSD told him she could manage with him there one night a week, but then phones him whenever she feels like it and asks him to stay. Neither of them have stuck to any of the agreements I thought we'd made and I'm starting to feel like a doormat. Hubby knows I'm unhappy but has said he'll carry on supporting DSD.
Any suggestions? Am I being unreasonable? I feel like I'm going mad!
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MrsBetty · 06/04/2016 16:56
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