Hi all, I have 2 boys ages 9 & 7. My oldest son was diagnosed with ASD (Aspergers) 2 years ago. I separated from their father when boys were 1 & 3 and he sees them every other weekend. He has moved on and has another child now so support is of a minimum. I've been with my current partner for nearly 3 years and we lived together 6 months in to the relationship due to many factors. However we have had so many difficulties. He has a now 12 year old son who lives with his mum and spends every other weekend with us (same as my boys). He has been seperated from his ex for 10 yeas but she has never moved on and I feel has put insecurities into their son and dictates our time with the kids at the weekend. He can't see the damage she has caused and has huge guilt living with my boys and has backed away from trying to bond with them due to not wanting to upset his son. It doesn't help that my son has Aspergers and is very defiant so it's a daily battle. Sadly he moved out couple of weeks ago as he is unable to connect to the boys and also due to the fact that I am not happy to have a relationship where the ex controls our family time. It makes me so angry and undervalued.
I'm now feeling like I may never meet a man who can accept the full package as it comes. Can I ask if anyone else has had similar problems and how your men handled the ex?
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summerlass · 27/03/2016 18:28
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