I am almost 12 weeks and having had a few scans we are told baby is developing well so feeling hopeful.We aren't planning on telling the kids for a while (all being well) but i am starting to think about the best way to do it.
I would like some advice on best way to tell my SDs (8 and 5) that we are expecting a baby. I also have a DS but feel ok about how we tell him. I know he will find it initially hard as he has had me all to himself for years and now shares me with the SDs when they are here but he does it well and i think when i big up the pros for him he will be excited.
I think little SD (5) will be excited too but I am very worried about elder SD (8) as she has been very difficult of late and I am worried she will see this as evidence that she is not loved or needed. Or find it as another excuse to get attention (I'm sad because you're having a baby.... )
My thinking was to pitch it as "exciting news" and really big up the importance of being a big sister to SD. She loves friends' babies so I was planning on saying that I will really need her help to look after the baby and she can push the pram, help with baths etc etc. I also wanted to reassure that we still love them just as much and they will always be daddy's girls and i am very lucky they are in my life too.
Should me and DP tell the children together? Or each bio parent tell? I think together as it helps reinforce that we are together (SD has told us before she will do whatever it takes to split us up) but I am really dreading her reaction.
Any thoughts or experiences welcome!
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howtodowills · 24/03/2016 11:45
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