I'm looking for some genuine advice, I know it's an awful way to feel and I feel terrible about it every day but I just can not help it, I do not like her.
She was only 1 when I met her dad and we got on great. Her dad and I moved in together very quickly and I loved the weekends that we had her staying. I longed for a child of my own to complete our family but it wasn't happening at the time. Shortly after her 2nd birthday her Mum stopped us from seeing her for reasons down to pure jealousy. We fought and fought but had no outcome.
Nearly 2 years ago I finally gave birth to our first child together and a moth or so later suddenly my partners ex was in contact. She thought it was time we got to see her again. I knew she was only doing this because she didn't want us to forget about my step daughter but we were over the moon. I really wanted my child growning up knowing her sister. The first few months were brilliant. We got on great and she'd come to stay whenever we could have her. She asked if it was okay to call me mummy too and things were great until a few months in when her personality seemed to change. She started to become really childish again. She wouldn't do as she was asked and she screamed and cried at everything. She would snatch toys from my daughter who would only have been 6-7 months at the time. She just became really irritating. From that moment on things just went totally down hill until it got to the point I realised I dislike her.
Now she doesn't really do anything in particular to annoy me. She has calmed down a lot and she knows not to act up in our house like she does for her mum but I can't shake the dislike I have for her. We only have her every 2nd weekend but I dread it. I hate it when she's here. I'm not myself. Everything she does annoys me and I can't show any interest in things she likes. I've tried my hardest to get over it. I'm a grown woman, recently now a mother of 2 and she is only 7. I know it's cruel and I'm a horrible step mum and all the rest of it but I don't know what to do. I really really do want to like her but I just can't. Please any advice would be appreciated.
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I know it's awful but I dont like my step daughter.
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minniemama1421 · 07/03/2016 17:04
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