DSC and Mothers Day

[DontCareHowIWantItNow]

Not sure what to do about this.

We have full residency of DSC with only indirect contact with them with their 'D'M when she can be botheted

We did the usual do you want to send something to your mum, but they really didn't want to so we didn't push it. It was hard enough time get them to write back to her after last correspondence.

However last night DH got a very abusive text from her about how she hadn't received anything whilst calling DH, me and even DSC all the names under the sun.

I'm wondering whether it is worth asking DSC again if they want to.

We have been advised not to make them do things like this, but nor do I want the constant threats and harassment to start continue

[Fourormore]

No, I would not pressure them again. I would report the harassment to the police.

[DontCareHowIWantItNow]

Thanks Four we have in the past. This is mild to what has happened before. I will speak to DH about reporting this too.

They have been through so much, so many court dates etc just want to wrap them in bubble wrap a bit and let them be.

[Fourormore]

I can really understand that. I hope they have a nice Mother's Day with you

[Pinkheart5915]

I have never been in a step parent situation, but no I wouldn't ask them again you guys asked they said no so that's there choice.

She doesn't sound overly nice anyway, you have full residency and she texts abusive things because she didn't receive anything

Hope you enjoy Mother's Day with them

[RudeElf]

I'm wondering whether it is worth asking DSC again if they want to.

And so rewarding her for her vile behaviour? why in earth would you want to teach them that that is how you respond to people who treat you appallingly? Why would you let her think her behaviour was successful in getting what she wanted? Ignore her. They are best off out of that.

[DontCareHowIWantItNow]

Thank you Pinkheart No she isn't overly nice tbf.

RudeElf I know you are right and we haven't said anything to DSC.

They are so settled now and doing so well and such lovely DC and we don't want you unnecessarily upset them anymore than they have to be.

[AnneLovesGilbert]

I hope you have a happy day with them OP and agree with PPs about not asking them again.

My DSC live with their DM and things are relatively stable there and with them and us. We have them every weekend, asked if she wanted to wake up with them tomorrow morning. She said no, late drop off is fine. We asked them if they wanted to make her a card (one of them did for valentines), to buy her something, or to bake something. No to all offers. They just don't want to and we've both asked a few times. What can you do?

She's never done anything with them for Father's Day. Apparently couldn't give less of a crap. So we do him breakfast in bed, cards and a special day.

He has me and she's on her own, so we try and get them to do things for her for mother's day but they don't want to.