How do you accept it when step kids that you've cared for just have no interest at all anymore? Or not much to begin with either!
My DSCs, all four of them, are in their late teens or adulthood, and recently either live with their mum or their own place. We used to have two full time, and all every single weekend. I've known them half their lives.
Yet they hardly visit, when they do they speak to each other, DP and go on the XBox. They ignore me completely. I ask them how they are but it's like pulling teeth. They ignore my son, my half brother too. It feels unnatural, not like normal teen self absorption. There's an unbreakable barrier. I'd like to just be able to accept but it's an unsaid strain with me and DP. I get on well with DPs mum, brother and sister. It's not forced. Why can't it be like that?
If your h isn't going to include you then there's no chance of things being ok. He's demonstrating to his kids that this is an acceptable way to treat you (maid ) - as MN would say it's you have an H problem.
You know, there's nothing you can do and it's sad that your husband allows this to go on. If you've done nothing to warrant this atrocious behaviour then I would say they are spoiled and ignorant and the fact that they seem to have no kindness in them is a reflection of them, not you.