My husband and I have a baby on the way (5 months) and we have sd on Saturdays.
My hubby was with his ex for 3 years on and off before he met me, and had his daughter after about 2 years with her. Before she got pregnant he wasn't anything special (a druggy and alcoholic, but he was young) but as soon as she got pregnant he shaped up, quit all substances, got them a child friendly house, had a few different jobs but was still consitently employed and became an amazing dad, which is all great.
I've been with my husband for 8 months, married for 3 (quick i know, it's just how it happened) and he had not been employed at all this entire time. We lived in a tiny, cramped apartment with a housemate and court was coming up for sd and we feared it would go badly without a better house. Hubby made no effort to get a house and we only have one now because i found one and organised everything, yet he easily got a few different houses for his ex every time she wanted to move.
I have single handedly paid for sds cot and car seat and spilt the cost of everything else for her because i love her.
We are literally poor and hubby won't get a job or even try, even though he was happily employed for his life with his ex.
I do chores but sometimes get very tired due to being 5 months pregnant and the house is so awful there are literally dishes covered with mold because hubby won't help me. But no way did he live like that with his ex, she just wouldn't have allowed it.
When hubby was with his ex they were even briefly engaged and what they had planned was far more extravagant than what we had (more money i guess).
I've been there for every court date, ever lawyer's appointment, EVERYTHING.
I know i shouldn't "compare" myself to his ex, but honestly he went to the moon and back for her, or maybe it was all for his daughter like he says (which would be great). But if that's true, why won't he for our girl...
Just tired of hurting.
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Evie37 · 26/02/2016 14:06
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