Hi all,
Hope you won't mind me posting here. I am not a fully time step parent but I am after some help and advice.
Ok brief history, I'm a single mum to dd (8) met a lovely guy that has a dd (8) almost exactly the same age as my dd. he's just lovely we have known each other for 18months, been dating for 6months. He is not a Disney day and has a great relationship with his dd
We have been taking things slowly.
I work near him and live in a different part of the country. So we are only able to meet up when I am near him for work. This has worked well for us as we both have come out of unpleasant relationships and wanted to take things slowly.
Anyway, to the question. The next time we are meeting up he has suggested that I might like to meet his dd (she has started a hobby that I'm a qualified instructor in so we are planning on doing that hobby, and I can maybe help her out a little - very chilled, relaxed sort of thing) anyway so two questions
1 - I was going to take her a couple of things I know she doesn't have but need for this hobby nothing expensive, but thing she will need and use daily in this hobby. Do you think this is ok?
2 - it's her dad birthday a week later (she idolises her dad) historically there has been no one to even take her and get her a card (no family near by and her mother is not willing) assuming when we meet up she is happy would it be odd to offer to take her if she would like? Not literally take her. but there is a big shopping centre where her dad and I where thinking we might get a bite to eat after the activity if everything goes well (there is a big card shop almost opposite the food court - so we could pop in there)
It's a very odd situation for me, because I've heard so much about this little girl for 18months and things are going very well between her dad and I. I'm don't want to over step the mark. Please be gentle with me, I'm worried enough about this as it.
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Newtothisbutanoldhand · 13/02/2016 12:15
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