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PaleBlueDottie Thu 11-Feb-16 17:33:25

We have dsc normally one week on one week off. So, Sunday to Sunday alternate weeks.

However dsc mum is going on holiday abroad on Saturday so we are having them for two weeks from Saturday.

This works out great as Dp and I are taking them to Scotland for 5 days during half term. It's a 4 hour drive

Dsc mum has just informed that dsc have given up ipads for lent. She said it was their decision. Doubtful as they are 4, 6 and 8. I also have a 5 ye old dd who lives here ft.

Anyway, for the 4 hour journey we would normally allow them the ipads in the car and as we are away would probably benefit from taking ipads with us for the lull in activity whilst away.

WWYD about the lent situation? Dp and I don't do lent an dd certainly won't

Would we be wrong not to honour dsc mums wishes and allow ipads if they wish?

Residency is split 50/50. The dsc have all necessary belongings at both homes and love of two families.

Dp and I are stuck on what to do

HanYOLO Thu 11-Feb-16 17:41:17

Lent exemption for the journey and maybe holiday. They can give up sprouts or chocolate instead, or do their extra lenten days when they are with their mother.

Are you religious? Is their DM, particularly?

PaleBlueDottie Thu 11-Feb-16 18:03:41

We are not religious and neither is their mother

Good idea about the exemption.

We will ask that the substitute the ipads and think of something else

NNalreadyinuse Thu 11-Feb-16 18:11:25

I'd let them have the ipads whenever they wanted them. Not fair of her to impose a religious belief ( I dont think it came from the kids either), then go on holiday and leave you to implement it. Bugger that!

NNalreadyinuse Thu 11-Feb-16 18:13:03

If she is not religious then why is she observing lent?

RudeElf Thu 11-Feb-16 18:15:53

If she isnt religious i dont understand why she is observing lent? confused

As kids going on holiday we brought paper, felt tips, books and barbies with lots of outfits and a hairbrush.

CharleyDavidson Thu 11-Feb-16 18:18:46

There's no obligation to fast/give up whatever on the Sundays in lent. Lent would last for 46 days if you did, instead of the 40.

LineyReborn Thu 11-Feb-16 18:24:41

And why is she doing this far-fetched thing do you think? It seems very odd of her.

PaleBlueDottie Thu 11-Feb-16 18:35:52

It is very odd.

In fact even odder is the fact that DP has just met them at swimming lessons and youngest had his ipad!

Dp questioned and was told they start tomorrow - didn't lent start yesterday?

Ok. That's our decision made. They can have their ipads

WhoGivesAFlying Thu 11-Feb-16 18:36:31

She can do that in her house, what you do in yours is up to you. As long as dad is ok with it (and seeming as they are not religious I can't see the problem).

WhoGivesAFlying Thu 11-Feb-16 18:40:01

My kids/step kids suddenly become religious at Easter and Christmas lol

lunar1 Thu 11-Feb-16 18:41:24

Bloody hell sod that, if they were all religious then maybe but what's wrong with giving up chocolate!

LineyReborn Thu 11-Feb-16 18:43:22

Plus, I was brought up religiously (Christian) but was never expected to observe lent as a young child. Not while at primary school.

ProfGrammaticus Thu 11-Feb-16 18:43:30

You could get story CDs and podcasts to listen to - iPads aren't essential!

Or, you know, play games?

WhoGivesAFlying Thu 11-Feb-16 18:48:47

not essentia, but make life a hell of a lot easier on a 4 hour car journey prof and they can still play games when not on the pad

PaleBlueDottie Thu 11-Feb-16 18:49:23

Prof. What makes you think we don't play games? Your sarcasm is unwarranted

The ipads are an addition to a long car journey and our experience of this journey is that a little while on the ipad to break it up between everything else we have for entertainment suits our family.

ProfGrammaticus Thu 11-Feb-16 18:53:06

Maybe. But those of us with teenagers who managed long car journeys perfectly well find the current reliance on them to entertain small children ridiculous.

swingofthings Thu 11-Feb-16 18:54:52

They all have one ipad each? at that age?

ProfGrammaticus Thu 11-Feb-16 18:55:15

Well quite

WhoGivesAFlying Thu 11-Feb-16 18:57:28

Times have changed prof. There was once a time and we all got by without washing machines...what's wrong with making life easier ?

WhoGivesAFlying Thu 11-Feb-16 19:00:55

And what's wrong with having one each....if you can afford it? Jeeze,

PaleBlueDottie Thu 11-Feb-16 19:08:35

We didn't go out and buy ipads all at the same time.
Eldest got his at Christmas.
6 year old for his birthday - and only because I got it free with my home learning course and money was tight at the time for a main gift.
Youngest doesn't have one here. He does however at his mother's.
DD does not have one at all.

exLtEveDallas Thu 11-Feb-16 19:09:05

Yeah, we use to to long car journeys in the boot of my dads Escort Estate - so much better for you than sitting on the back seat safely secured by a seatbelt...Oh to be back in the good old days confused

DVD players and iPads save me from the tedium of I Spy and the alphabet game. I wouldn't give them up for the world!

lunar1 Thu 11-Feb-16 19:10:07

Be honest, you sold your first born to the devil and he gave you iPads for the rest in exchange!

lunar1 Thu 11-Feb-16 19:10:31

Be honest, you sold your first born to the devil and he gave you iPads for the rest in exchange!

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