argh
right, DP and I and our respective DCs (one each, same age, girls) share a household, we have met in the middle on some things - but our children have been brought up quite differently by two very different sets of parents.
My child has more restrictions/boundaries than my partner's child. Mainly on bedtimes and screen time. DPs ethos is very child led, she more or less choses for herself when to go to bed, watch TV etc.
My child at times protests about this to the extent that DPs child gets upset / worried about making my DC cross, and won't do things that my DC isn't allowed to. Then my DP worries about the impact on his DC, which creates yet more tension.
How do others manage this? I maintain they are different people, with different needs, so need to do some things differently.
But my DC says it's not fair and gets quite hostile with me at times about it. I've explained fair doesn't mean equal. Also that she has more freedoms now than she had when it was just me and her Dad living with her. But I sort of get how an 11 year old might see it this way.
Any one advise other tactics for not getting sucked into a round of resentment and 'not fairing' or just anyone else who feels my pain?
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Meanderer · 08/02/2016 20:32
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