WIBU?

[blondieblonde]

I just asked my husband about my two DSDs and he completely flipped his lid. We have had problematic contact with them over the years, with first the oldest one (now an adult) losing contact and now the younger, teen one seemingly doing the same. She used to have regular visits but hasn't for a year and I asked if he had tried to phone her. Their mum blocks them from contacting us and controls their phones/email. Yes, he pays over CSA amount and left her when she cheated (a long time ago now).

Was I wrong to ask? He was really upset (though put it across as angry). Should I never ask again, and wait until he mentions it?

[SerafinaScoresby]

What exactly did you ask him? It can be an incredibly difficult and emotive subject to talk about. It must hurt so much to lose contact with children who've been poisoned against you.

[blondieblonde]

I asked if he had tried to phone them.

[SerafinaScoresby]

If leave it at that if I were you tbh. I can only speak from personal experience, it might be too painful for him to talk about.

[blondieblonde]

Ok. I only asked as we have younger children and I wanted to know what to expect from a family point of view. I'll leave it.

[cappy123]

That must be hard

[RudeElf]

You just said casually "hey have you called your daughters lately?" What prompted this question?

And what do you mean by flipped his lid? Clearly theres a history and i'm wondering why you wouldnt have known how he might react.