I am 7 months pregnant, married and have one 9yo DS from earlier partner... DH and DS get on amazingly and i feel v lucky for that (otherwise we would not have married!). i have 'good enough' relationship with ex and all is friendly... DS spend's every other weekend with his dad, and one night during the week.
I am now absolutely knackered with the pregnancy though and feel really unsupported. When DS is home i do everything for him, cooking, cleaning, washing, homework, getting him up and ready for school etc... all of which has been fine because he's my DS and i want to spend time with him. Right now though i am super tired. I would really like a lie-in. I really feel that my DH could make the effort on a weekend to get up with DS and make breakfast, let me get some kip? Maybe offer to take him off for a few hours? Offer to do his dinner or get him up to bed? I know i have every other weekend off, but the 16 days between getting up early each day takes its toll... DH gets up early each day to go to work but would never dream of bring me up a cup of tea or doing anything like that... his philosophy seems to be to keep himself out of the way and not make too much mess so i can't moan.
The reality is he really wanted us to have a baby, i didn't, but i agreed in the end and am happy that we got there finally (it was a hard road), but i kind of thought he'd help out more. DH and I both work full time.
We have had this conversation about a million times but nothing changes. he thinks he has 'done his bit' if he spends an hour a day chatting at home with DS on the weekends, while i do the household chores.
i genuinely don't know whether i am expecting too much?!
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TheWrongAlice · 18/01/2016 15:01
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