I started to type out a bit of back-story, but it got very long and complicated, so I'll try to summarise if I can. In short, I need to find a way to talk to my DD(6) about the fact that her Dad is actually her brother's step-dad.
My DS(13) has called my DH 'Dad' since before she was born, and he calls his biological dad (as well as his GPs, whom his dad lives with) by first name. He visits them regularly, but DD is not aware of their exact relationship to her brother. All she knows is DS goes to visit some people every so often, and she has never really questioned this, until recently. On that occasion I sort of avoided the question a little.
I feel like all of this just kind of 'happened', one thing at a time, and all of a sudden I feel like I've been lying to DD and turned this all in to some sort of secret. This was never my intention, and it really troubles me. I wish things had been different, and that DD had grown up knowing her brother had another family, and that would have been her 'normal' as she'd not have known any different.
I feel like we need to have this talk with DD soon, and I think she will understand. One of her friends has a step-dad, which I think might help her process things. Can you give me some suggestions on how to open the conversation?
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How to explain our 'blended family' to DD
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ThunderwingDoomslayer · 18/01/2016 13:53
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