I know I'm being totally unreasonable and need to get a grip but I need somewhere safe to vent.
I've always wanted a family and I'm really struggling just being dad's girlfriend. I was previously in a relationship with someone who had a DS and he expected me to do everything. That was ridiculously hard having all of the responsibility when DS was here but none of the actual say in how he was brought up. I can honestly say I'm so much happier now we're not together. Fast forward to now and I find myself back in the position of being dad's girlfriend. My boyfriend has a daughter and they have a really great relationship. Things are so much different now and for the most part I'm happy but I'm really struggling still. As with most kids, his DD enjoys playing with those around her. She was really shy when we first met and I'm so happy she's opened up to me and really taken to me. I enjoy spending time with her but it's so difficult. She has many issues (particularly around food). It winds DP up and he tries his best but it's difficult to change learnt behaviours when you're not there 24/7. I see it's hard for DP sometimes but I feel like just a bystander. He tries to include me but it's not the same being dad's girlfriend. I would never ever want to try and take the place of her mum, they have a great relationship and I admire that. But whilst I enjoy spending time with her it's exhausting and I just feel like I've always wanted my own family and it just makes it even harder. Having a bit of a difficult day and need to get a grip tbh.
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Fed up of just being dad's girlfriend
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Alwaysthefriend · 02/01/2016 16:38
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