We've got the DSS's this evening and we have booked to go to see Star Wars. DP has just spoken to the eldest DS (12) who said his Mum has told him he can't watch Star Wars with us as she wants to watch it with them. So now he's saying we can't go to the cinema as his Mum will be cross.
Just for completeness, when Spectre came out DP told his ex we were taking the boys to see it on his weekend and she said no, she didn't want him to. No reason why or any explanation, so we went anyway. DP said she's never enjoyed the cinema and he often went alone with the boys so assumed she was just being difficult. Anyway, she called whilst we were at the cinema, DP text her to say he'd call when the film was over and she went apeshit. Drove to the cinema (30 mins from her), was calling him continuously and texting telling him how outraged she was he went against her wishes etc etc. Thankfully she wasn't allowed past the cinema staff but was threatening to come and remove the boys from the cinema. Still no real explanation why, DP said that if she particularly wanted to see Spectre with the boys then she could have articulated that but, given that she doesn't enjoy the cinema, he couldn't understand why she was so angry he'd taken them; she didn't really respond except with abuse.
So now she's explicitly told the eldest DS not to see Star Wars with us, what do we do? He's clearly uncomfortable and in the middle, poor chap, but we've booked and paid for it. And this is just her being controlling and manipulative, as standard. Part of me wants to ignore her but I know she'll take it out on the DSSs, so would you be the bigger person and lose the money already spent to save the children the hassle?
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Andsoitbegins88 · 01/01/2016 15:04
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