Going to see solicitor, fed up advice needed

[Whatafrickennightmare]

So where so I start, as I am at the end of my tether. At the moment contact for dss is 3 days with us 4 days with his dm, but for the past year or so it has been the other way around. Every week for the past year dh has received texts saying dxp can't cope with dss so he's coming a day early, every week he gets texts saying he's in his room at 6 pm no tea and going to bed as he's been bad so will reply that he will come and get gim she sas no.. the thing is dss has 2 brothers one here and one at dm house both around similar age , he has never gelled with brother at mums house she says he 'bullies ' him. My dss is 6 and not a bullied ,a handfull at times but no bully.
So today we received a text I'm dropping (NAME) off at 9 I can't stand him his behavior is awful. We're not meant to get him until timmorow afternoon. Dh replied that's not fair on ds as he as only seen you a day since he had come back and you can't keep sending him here when you can't deal with it. She then treated that she was gonna have him more days husband said she has the chance to have him more days but sends him here as she can't cope! He has now threatened to go to the solicitors for advice and suggested that if his behaviour is so different at each house why Is she not come in and discuss it like adults with him. She sent back saying no and a load of abuse.
Basically where would my dh stand if he went to solicitor to see about changing contact as this is not fair on dss getting passed pillar to post.

[D0ntLookD0wn]

It would depend on a lot more than you've written but he has equal parental responsibility so it's as good a shot as any.

[YouBastardSockBalls]

I don't know, it doesn't sound very nice :
You might want to report your post though as you've used your DSS name

[MuttonCadet]

It's a shame that you can't agree contact, I think the first step should be mediation, followed by court if that doesn't work, but a solicitor can advise you.

Fwiw we have the same here, but with two dss. So far over Christmas they've had just one day with there mum out of 10. It's great for DH, but I do think their mum is missing out, (it's entirely her choice, she should have them 4 days out of 7).

[OliviaMumsnet]

Hi there
WE've removed the name here
Good luck with it all
Kindest