I have been dating my boyfriend for about 6 weeks. The first time we slept together we unexpectedly got pregnant. We talked it over, and have both decided that we want to keep the baby. We did not know each other before we started dating and are still getting to know each other. I am finding it challenging to get to know someone, while at the same time planning our blended family. I feel like I don't really understand the challenges ahead yet, though I have been trying to read as much as I can about blended families.
I have a 2 year old son, who is with me full time, from a previous relationship and my boyfriend has three kids (ages 7, 6 and 4) from his previous marriage. He shares them week on, week off with their mother. He is an amazing father and his kids are visibly his number one priority. He is also the CEO of a development corporation, and works long hours when it is not his week with his children. Because he has so many commitments, we aren't able to see each other very much and I am feeling extremely lonely and needy. I don't feel like I can communicate my needs to him without sounding clingy and feel like I am lacking the support system I need to bring a baby into the world.
We have talked about it and at some point (within the next 8 months before the baby comes) my son and I will move into his house with him and his children. I am feeling anxious about transitioning from having one child, to having 5 children in a house.
Mostly I'm just feeling scared and anxious and asking myself if I'm making a big mistake. Any advice or insight into my situation would be more than appreciated!
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Need Advice: Accidental Pregnancy Leading Towards Blended Family
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ibinger · 09/12/2015 06:03
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