We recently moved in together (which is stressful enough as it is!) and I'm already struggling I'm surprised how tough I'm finding having his DC here - which makes me feel like a terrible person and even worse about the whole thing.
Because of the situation with his ex I hadn't met the children loads of times before we moved in (in short, we lived 150 miles apart and it was difficult making it work combined with DC mum being very anti and us not wanting to push it) so I know it's bound to be hard for them too and just going to take time but I feel awkward in my own home.
When I used to visit DP with them there I naively thought those feelings came from being in a home that wasn't mine etc but now we've moved into a different house together, I still feel it.
The boys (12 & 9) are very sweet but I'm fairly shocked at their behaviour - I was brought up in a strict household & my sister brings my nephews up as we were, so I'm not used to it. DP says they're just children and, because I don't have any, I can't judge how hard it is getting children to do what you want them to. The beds are unmade, clothes stay where they drop them, dishes stay on the dining room table or get put on the kitchen side if they can be forced to, albeit with a lot of whining and the tv is never off - not even during meal times.
People raise children differently and have different expectations, I completely get that, but it's making me feel anti DP and anti being here when they are.
I'm sorry for such a long post, I just need to get it off my chest and have a word with myself!
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Andsoitbegins88 · 05/12/2015 10:34
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