I'm stuck and need some sound views.
An Aunt is giving lump sums to nearest relatives - she's always been generous but in her twilight years, she's thinking of reducing her estate. She has asked me whether I will accept a sum for my 2 young DS's (both under 10) and keep it for their future. I am so humbled by this and delighted that she thought of my boys especially when there are other relatives she could give more to. I have discussed it with DH and he's also humbled, but feeling disloyal to his eldest daughter, my step-daughter. She's 26 , qualified in her professional field and financially independent. She's gorgeous and we really are a happy unit.
I'm torn. My Aunt hasn't really been in a position to bond with my DSD - she lives in a different country, visited when DSD was in Uni, so hasn't factored her in at all. I need to discuss this gift later on today and I don't know what to say. Do I accept and feel disloyal to be eldest DSD? Or do I sound like an ungrateful grabber by reminding my dear old Aunt that I consider myself to have 3 children, and not 2.
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Crwban · 28/10/2015 09:12
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