I have been with my partner for over 2 years now, we both have a child of our own and one together.
My partner has his daughter pretty much at every opportunity he gets which is near enough every other weekend and would only change due to work.
Anyway recently we have starts to receive messages from his child's mother to say that she has gone home to 'complain' about the sleeping arrangements we have in place. We usually get these messages a good 3-4 days after she has gone home and when she is here she never complains, baring in mind she is 4.
At the moment my son sleeps in a high sleeper bed and when she stays we have a toddler blow up air bed with a bumper round the side, which we cover with a soft blanket and she has a princess duvet, she always looks cosy and never complains. Her mum seems to think it is a camp bed and has now told us if we don't get bunk beds she isn't letting her come stay with us?! Any ideas on what we can do? Money doesn't grow on trees and we can't afford to just go buy bunk beds and two mattresses and get rid of my sons bed which isn't even a year old!
Also when my partner asks to have her for the weekend she asks her daughter if she wants to come? Surely it shouldn't be a choice at 4 years old, children change their mind by the minute?!
Really at my wits end, please say I'm not the only step mother that faces these problems? My parents have been split from me being s young age and I never had a permenant room or bed at my dads, never bothered me?
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LONC2012 · 07/10/2015 15:24
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