DP has a DD (5) from a PR. DSD lives 35 miles away but usually spends 2 nights a week with us (DP picks her up from school on a Friday night and she stays until Sunday afternoon when he takes her back).
They broke up on July 17th so the have over 7 weeks off school this time round!! DP and I have a DD together (1). He has serious PFB and disney dad syndrome which didn't bother me until our DD was born and the preference he had/has for his older DD became apparent, for the first three months of her life she was referred to as "it" by him. He did absolutely nothing, he wouldn't cook or clean to help me out and in the end I had to give up BF after 3 months because I couldn't cope with everything that needed doing in the house, owing, looking after DSD etc (he also made me feel pretty shit about this).
He works long hours but is self employed so can chose when he would like to make more of an effort to actually interact with the kids.
He never makes an effort to eat meals with myself and DD unless DSD is here then he will make the effort, e.g on a morning where we don't have DSD he will just disappear out of the door but hen DSD is here he will sit and eat breakfast with us.
He is often out all day and can go days without seeing DD (she's usually in bed when he gets home). I appreciate that he works hard but I'm doing the lions share of childcare for both of the kids, he's never once bathed DD and doesn't help me with their bedtime routine so it's all down to me, he will quite happily sit on his arse and watch TV while I struggle.
Another tng that annoys me is his reluctance to pull DSD up on her behaviour. If I'm looking after her she's awesome, well behaved, will help me put toys away, bring her plates to the sink, she's polite etc, the moment her dad walks into the room it's like someone has Flicked a switch, she changes, she's rude to me, she will hit and spit, throw food on the floor, stomp her feet, scratch the list goes on and on. DP has very recently started to reprimand her but it's all too clear that it's too little too late really, she takes no notice if he is there. It's so frustrating, we've had DSD since the schools broke up and she's not going back to her DMs until the middle of this month and only for 4 days then she's straight back here again. I have no issue with looking after her it's more the fact that I get so much abuse off her when her dad is around because she knows she can get away with it and the fact that I get so little help. I work Friday and Saturday mornings and often have to take DD with me because he can't possibly look after them both. He gets mad with me and says that he wishes he could spend time with her but he's having to work all hours now due to the weather being quite good, that's fine, I understand that but I need help from him when he gets home!! It annoys me that he doesn't ask if I'm ok to have her before he agrees to having her for the majority of the 7 week holidays, I just feel that it's a big ask and I haven't been taken into consideration.
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I've had enough!! Sick of being treated like a baby sitter!
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.If she leaves won't he have contact without the mum to protect her? Not sure how these things work!
Op, look into WA and get some help leaving this bully, that poor baby looks to him for love and protection 
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