OH and I are having 'honest chats' about whether there is any hope of a reconciliation in our relationship. (he moved out a month ago).
He said today he would only consider getting back together if his 18 yr old DD came back to live with us for the next 5 years. And never have to go to visit her mums so I would never be able to ask for some time with OH.
I understand he'd feel like that but I cannot live with her anymore.. I do feel really pretty terrible! But I just can't do it. I tried for the last 5 years and she didn't cooperate with me on most things and bossed my son so I had to constantly intervene. I think that as an adult, the possibility for more conflict, competing with me to be an equal in the house would be too much. I also said to my OH that we have had almost no time with our 2 year old son to build us up, and that I had no reserves less for drama and tension elsewhere.
Has anyone else come to a point where they've had to say 'I'm sorry, I just cannot live with your son/daughter?'.
My OH does not understand as he feels that he lives fine with my other son (12) - there is no tension there. I tried to explain why it has got to this point. He says it is because I just can't be 'relaxed about things'. He says if he doesn't do this he will regret it and resent me forever. Yet if he does, our son will also lose out on living with his father.
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Anyone had to say NO to living with a DSC? Feeling terrible!
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K888 · 05/07/2015 22:44
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