I honestly can't say a word right about his kids. He can slag my boys off from morning till night but If I dare say a word about his little treasures its all out war. It's ridiculous. He says my kids are lazy yet he has a 20 year old who has never worked a day in his life and has just decided to take a "gap year" after finally finishing college with absolutely no plans in place. So basically he intends to bum around for a year. God forbid I say anything though but if if was my kid he'd be on it like a fly around shit. Monday I asked how his lad was as i saw he was talking to him on Skype. He launched into a verbal assault about how his conversations with his son are private and I had no right asking etc etc!!! I only asked how the kid was!!! When they're here his youngest (18) eats and drinks tons on stuff that my kids are told they have to ask for/ration. If I say anything it's world war 3. His eldest will make a racket in his room until the early hours, if I say anything I'm a trouble causing wench who is just out to upset everyone. If I dare to suggest that his 20 year old actually bring some of his own money with him when staying with us its practically a hanging offence, even though my kids are expected to save for a pay their way. It's fucking egg shells all the time. I have no voice.
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He is honestly driving me to the edge. Even if I say something nice about his kids I'm pushed back and told that I don't really understand things.
If I say something like "Oh DSS2 was in a good mood this weekend!" he'll reply with "oh you don't know him though, I wouldn't try and work him out." 
why such a massive drama over a small positive comment?
I even tried to make light of DSS1's ridiculous gap year by saying "maybe it will give him the break he needs to find his way ... " etc and he replies with "yeah well to be honest you don't really understand him" ffs it's all so pointless.
He says I don't encourage him to spend time with his kids (or rather that it's my fault that he hardly sees them, even though he sees them every weekend!!!!) so on father's day I said "hey I had an idea, why not take the boys out to pub on Sunday for fathers day?"
All said with a smile and enthusiasm and in response I get "umm maybe".
Did he take them? did he bollocks. Yet it won't be long before he tells me it's all my fault that he never gets quality time with them.
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