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Wdigin2this Wed 10-Jun-15 01:02:01

Having mentioned on a few threads that my DSC are grown with DC of their own, (as are my own DC). Just thought I'd mention, if you have demanding and entitled DSC, you will in all probability have demanding and entitled SGC too...just a idea to think about!! wink

FeelTheNoise Wed 10-Jun-15 20:35:11

Wdigin noooooo!!!!

HesNotAMessiah Wed 10-Jun-15 22:28:26

No!

And HELL No!

Thats Not happening, end of....

Wdigin2this Thu 11-Jun-15 00:02:15

Well, that's my experience....specifically the entitled bit! Usual scenario, DF leaves family home, does everything he can to make it up to DC, so DC become accustomed to never hearing the NO word from daddy! DC grow up, entitlement becomes the norm, DC have their own DC and it gets passed on! Sorry, but there you go!!!

Jac01 Thu 11-Jun-15 03:02:58

I for one look forward to having SGC, but not for another 10 years hopefully smile

Wdigin2this Fri 12-Jun-15 12:00:38

I have DGC and DSGC, and I enjoy them all, but one DSGC is growing up with the same expectations of entitlement as DM, and it's such a shame because otherwise DSGC is lovely! I do know, as do others in this situation, it's my DH's fault, against all my advice and explanations he has continued to give, give, give way beyond what is acceptable or reasonable! He is now at the point of seeing for himself that he is regarded as a bottomless cash pit, and he gets so little back, it's heartbreaking!

Ilovenannyplum Fri 12-Jun-15 14:03:48

Oh god. I hadn't even thought of that confused
and I've got 4 DSC so that's 4 lots of grand kids!

HormonalHeap Fri 12-Jun-15 21:24:18

Your Dh doesn't want anything back, just wants to feel needed, accepted, and part of their lives and he's willing to pay for the pleasure. As you know, I have one the same. But the grandchildren also entitled?! Please no!! Do they bypass their parents and go straight to your dh?

One of the things that upsets me is that I always thought one makes joint decisions in a marriage. But That goes out the window if it involves the word 'no' to the dsc. I could go on...

Wdigin2this Wed 17-Jun-15 00:17:57

Hormonal, you're right...joint decisions have no chance in the scenarios I've experienced! And yes, unfortunately, when a DC feels entitled to and expectant of a constant and absolute support system, it shapes their lives and how they live, so naturally that is passed on to their own children, because that is what they see as 'normal life expectation', and so it goes on...and yes so could I!!
Ilovenannyplum, sorry to be the harbinger of future doom!!

Mommyusedtobecool Wed 17-Jun-15 08:07:07

I would say this sounds about right.
My dsc live with me full time time. Have a totally different sense of entitlement to their siblings and half siblings. They think they own my inlaws and my parents. But all they're interested in is what they can get from them materially and its all a competition to attempt to make others jealous.
My dsd won't even let my kids get a look in, when my own mother comes round she clings to her and gives my kids a sly look. Then if my Dp family ever come they're very possessive and make a point of saying 'thats MY aunty' or 'MY grandmother/father is getting me this. Not you. (Not that my kids even show interest)
I told my 10 yo and 8yo they're not having a mobile phone till they're in secondary school. So they told me their grandparents are getting them each one.?!!!
I don't intend to pander to the same bs when I'm a grandparent.
I'll pack up and go traveling!
I'll live in such a tiny apartment there'll be no sleepovers or long visits. I'll go see them instead, then I can leave smile

Wdigin2this Wed 17-Jun-15 11:01:10

Sounds like a plan Mommy....which is why I ensure we go on so many holidays each year!

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