So I have one DD and 3 DSC, my partner moved into my flat around 9 months ago now and each weekend he brings his 3 children here to stay. I have a two bedroomed flat with no garden! We are currently saving for a bigger house! But it's a slow process as I'm still studying! Well the real question is, should I put the triple bunk bed up in my daughters bedroom to accomadate the other children at weekends? Or continue using camp beds and blankets? Space is limited but they already share the box room at their Moms, just want them to feel included and happy until better things come along... What would you do? Thanks xx
I'd put the triple bunk up. I have 4 sons and 2 DSDs and we have made sure they all have their own actual bed so that they feel properly part of our household. My sons also have their own beds at their fathers home (his partner has two DCs too). My DSDs really like the idea that their beds are still there even when they aren't.
I would put the triple bunk up if I Was you but guess it depends on ages and genders. As long as they know that it is temporary and that you guys are working hard to try and provide more space for them x
Thanks for your replies. They are all different ages, my DD is 3, then DSD1 is 6, DSS is 7 and DSD2 is 10!! My daughter is more than happy to let them share her room- more so than I would be, bless her! I think I'll suggest putting them up and do a little reorganising, shouldn't be for much longer, but too long for camp beds I guess!
What about the beds you get that have a fold away one underneath? Get a couple of them, when the step kids aren't there you've got 2 single beds and depending how many are with you at once open then out?
Hate to put a dampner on your excitement.. It seems like you're all really positive about making space for your new step kids. But I'd say, speaking from experience as someone who did a similar thing, try to keep some space for your daughter, as she will be spending the majority of her time in your home and will need space to play, instead of it being cramped full of beds that are unused for the best part of the week. I was really excited about making sure everyone had a bed etc. But when you have limited space you have to be realistic. It's not mean, you can still make them all feel included and welcome. But although it can seem an exciting novelty factor at first they're also alot older than your dd and there will inevitably be times in the future when, as step children they test your boundaries and play up and you might not want that happening on your dds space. As mothers we tend to give our all to make our partners and their families at total ease and prove how awesome we are
But sometimes your own children can grow up resenting that you didn't keep some things a little sacred just for them. And in my experience you can do a little or alot but it's appreciated all the same and sometimes not at all. It was your apartment to begin with, so Wait till you get a bigger house together, before you give up all your space for furniture or you could end up resenting it.
Mommyusedtobecool- We decided against it in the end, the room just isn't big enough and they all seem happy enough as they are. We should only be here for a year max now, so what we have will do until they can have their own bedrooms and their own space.