My partner has been divorced for approx 16 years, he has two grown up children.
Since the split with his ex-wife, he's always been, in my opinion very fair with money. He gave the house to his wife - there was a mortgage but a small one and has always paid maintenance.
His ex-wife has always worked too...in fact it was my partners mum who provided childcare. So there's been no real financial struggles.
The relationship is pretty good despite the split although my partner has always felt a lot of guilt about leaving.
I would add here - we've been together for 6/7 years and i was nothing to do with the break up.
I'm now finding things hard because my partner is still paying and I think it needs to be looked at.
I respect his choices but actually feel this is becoming very unfair to him.
One "child" is 23 was due to graduate this year - they have now decided to work abroad for 12 months, this is connected to their studies. My partner's been told by his ex-wife that it's only fair for him to continue to pay support. He's done this through her studies as she said she can't work and study, although she has done some casual work.
His other "child" (25)completed their degree but then said they wanted to study medicine, as it was a 2nd degree, costs have been enormous and again, he's supported her throughout.
What's upset me is that he pays the support to "mum" for both and she diverts a lot to the child studying medicine, when his daughter came to stay, I actually had to buy her some clothes as she had no proper coat etc.
I love the fact he cares and wants to do the right thing...he doesn't earn a lot, in fact he has a second job to help pay for this. He's giving his ex wife £500 per month.
I'd really welcome some thoughts on this because I'm feeling unreasonable in saying enough is enough
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den1se10 · 21/05/2015 16:38
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