Hi there, I am a mother of two and stepmother of one I have a son 9yrs and a daughter 1, my step son is also 9yrs.
In my situation, I don't have any problems with my step son, it's the hassle that is caused between his mother and my husband. It's ok 80% of the time then some situation will arise and everything blows up! I find myself getting very stressed and frustrated as I don't want to intervene and be help responsible for anything.
after rows over finances in the past my husband contacted CSA himself to find out what he was legally obliged to pay to the mother of his child as the arguments were constant and he no longer wanted to deal with her on the matter. She after this, blew up even more saying he couldn't be declaring all his income and accusing myself of claiming tax credits etc, which was complete nonsense, she threatens to call and report us etc, we encouraged her to do so as we had been completely honest and had nothing to hide, so for her son since then, we have paid her £180 every month via bank transfer, we pay £150 towards summer clothing, £150 towards winter clothing and £100 towards school clothing, plus if anything ever comes up we will always pay half for anything he needs.
On top of that we collect him 2days a week from school one of which he stays with us over night, and have him every second weekend (her choice we would have him more) weave him half of the school holidays also. we give him £100 spending money if he ever goes on holiday, we halfed for his passport, he gets £200 on birthdays, £700 at Xmas from us, we do all the dropping off and collecting.
My husband was contacted the other day by her and she told him she was going to put her son into after school care three days a week as she was unable to collect him as she works past that time, and asked if we could pay half, £80 per month, we had a discussion about this and concluded its not possible as we just simply can't afford it. I also cannot collect him any more days from school as I have my own son to collect, she has since then went off her head, saying she is going to citizens advise etc, and said he is a joke of a father etc, this just doesn't seem right to me? Can anyone offer me some advise?? Please?? Lol thanks xxx
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Mumsy2629 · 01/05/2015 16:14
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