DSD is 14 and is at ours tonight because she was supposed to have a drama rehearsal which is nearby ours. We live near her school and drama club, whereas her mum lives nearly an hour's busride away.
The drama rehearsal has been cancelled because of snow. DSD's mum has presumably had an email telling her this (as will DH have had too I think, but he's still at work) So DSD's mum tries to phone DSD but her phone is out of charge, so she gets DSS to ring me on our landline to tell me. DSS sounds stressed and says "we've been trying for ages to get hold of DSD" - this is bloody stupid. His mum knows that I'm the one who's at home and is feeding DSD prior to the rehearsal, she knows I'm the one who needs to know that it's not on. She has our landline - obviously. Yet she needs to get DSS to ring me, as she can't just speak to me on the phone 
This has really pissed me off. There are many, many times when the DSC stop by here at the moment because it's convenient for them - I'm happy to have them here and it's not usually much bother feeding a couple of extras (I have my own DC too) but why can't she just acknowledge that I'm doing that?
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Am I right that this is stupid that DH's ex can't pick up a phone and speak to me?
yellowdaisies · 29/01/2015 17:50
Why do people always assume (usually wrongly) that stepmums are the OW? 
I wasn't the OW I met my DH after him and his ex had been split for over a year. They also weren't (shock horror) married as is normally presumed. 
OP I would be pissed off too. It's bad manners.
Tallulal - I have spoken to her a few times, when we've been watching DSD's drama plays or something like that. I've always been very polite and pleasant to her so she really can't find me that scary (I'm really not scary, honest 
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popularnames - I feel like that sometimes, but it wouldn't really just be her that I'd send a message to if I refused, the DSC would be hurt I think. I agree though it is just pathetic not to acknowledge the person who'd actually doing a hell of a lot of looking after your DC.
That would annoy me to op, sounds like you are being quite reasonable and a bit of common courtesy isn't much to ask when it's you providing the child care. But you can't change her so not much really you can do other than rant here .
Thanks mumsrush I don't often rant on here to be honest - but was just feeling so pissed off about it tonight. And sorry for DSS who had to get dragged into phoning me because he's mum's too pathetic to do so.
DSD seems quite happy about her unexpectedly free evening and is currently giggling away with my own DD about something, though so feeling a bit less cross now.
I could mention it to DH when he gets in and see if he could ask her just to speak to me direct, but don't want to cause conflict for him.
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