Struggling a bit

[TheJingleMumsRush]

Normally I don't let things bother me but maybe because we've had the dsc more i'm finding it difficult. Dsd level of shadowing dh, clinging onto him and asking where he is normally just goes over my head, but it's getting to me today. It's constant from the moment she arrives, every contact for the last 5 years

[wheresthelight]

Sending hugs!! I have no advice as dss does it too but I can sympathise with how irritating it is x

[TheJingleMumsRush]

Thanks. It gets to him sometimes too, especially when she hangs from his neck or jumps on him, she's too big for that now. Anyway, I'm keeping busy and keeping shtoom about it x

[Weathergames]

How old is she?

[TheJingleMumsRush]

She's eight but same size as 10-11

[TheJingleMumsRush]

Anyway, DH took them out today, it's important I think that they get alone time with him. So all will be good again when they get back. Nice dinner, and maybe a film :) feeling better already

[TheJingleMumsRush]

Thought I'd feel better but just feel really irritated today. The constant shadowing/draping of Dh, the non stop eating, the table manners (or lack of), the mumbling and fingers in mouth all the time (even when eating). I feel terrible but can't help it. :(

I'm not alway like this

[FeelTheNoise]

It gets harder the older (and bigger!) they get. DSD also flings herself at DP a lot, and he has only recently admitted it is only when I am about. He obviously can't reject her, but it is getting more odd and more difficult

[FeelTheNoise]

There's a thread on this topic about a 21 year old doing this, and that's how I see my future. Gtg, DP is back x

[FourthMary]

Don't feel terrible, we all feel like this sometimes. One of my dsd's does this sometimes too, we thought it may be an insecurity issue so have both been working on giving her attention, it seems to help.

I do spend the odd hour upstairs reading mnetting to have a little time out. It helps me.

[TheJingleMumsRush]

Thanks feel, I hope it's not like that when DSD is that old!

[NickiFury]

What on earth does her size have to do with anything?

[TheJingleMumsRush]

I never get between them, let her carry on with it. DH has sometimes told her to stop and she can hurt him. I let them have one on one time, no major PDA when kids are here. She's always done it, and has only ever known me with dh. It's not just the clingyness it's all the other stuff too,

[TheJingleMumsRush]

The fact that she can hurt him Nick, she jumps behind him and clings round his neck,

[TheJingleMumsRush]

It's good, it's normally all ok, I'm just having a low day, I've been in her life since she was two, she has lots of time with dad and I also do lots for her. She tells me she loves me and I do the same.

[ArsenicFaceCream]

Isn't there quite a complex history?

[TheJingleMumsRush]

Not really, all ok with all involved.

[NickiFury]

Well you're both going to have to work on her feeling less insecure aren't you? She's 8, whatever her size. My 8 year old is highly anxious and clingy, it's not uncommon at that age.

[TheJingleMumsRush]

Anyway, I posted here to let it out, I'd rather that than dsd pick up on anything. Off to go play Lego with her now

[TheJingleMumsRush]

Is she 8 Nick? I didn't know

[NickiFury]

Well I wondered because you seem a bit clueless in that you're moaning about perfectly normal behaviour.

[TheJingleMumsRush]

I don't think she's insecure, I know her very well and think that's just how she is,

[TheJingleMumsRush]

I know I am, I haven asked how to changer her, like I said, rather moan here than at her

[ArsenicFaceCream]

I thought I remembered a worrying thread of yours from the Autumn? That then vanished.....

[ArsenicFaceCream]

Hope you are ok now.