We are a fairly new blended family.I have 5yr old from previous relationship and newborn with my husband.We have been living together for 8 months along with his mum and her sister who is unwell.
I have gone through very draining court proceedings with my ex when we split,not communicating at one point about our son,him telling lies to my son,introducing new partner within two weeks of knowing her etc.
My husband's been very supportive,I was very careful in waiting to introduce him to my son and we only started living together once we got married.
My husband thinks my son is playing me and my ex and is getting everything he wants,that I give in all the time and my son is bossing me around.
I prefer to talk to my son rather and explain to him when he is out of order rather than raise the voice and shout but lately I feel I am put on spot and has to show my husband "I am tough"
I struggle because my husband works long hours and hasn't got time to built a relationship with my son and get to know him.With newborn,we are always busy around the house and I am aware my son doesn't get full attention,
He also recently makes things up or say a lie to not to get into trouble.
Last night me and my husband had argument because he said in front of our son "your mum thinks it's ok that you can damage curtains but I don't " we were in the kitchen and my son came to tell me something happened with curtains and I asked hi. Was it cat?Our cat likes to claim on them.He just nodded and then my husband caught him pulling curtains and he blatantly lied.I was trying to talk to him and explain is wrong to lie etc.and then my husband said that quote.I walked out of room and when he asked me what's worn I just said you shouldn't have said that.We ended up arguing.
My son loves him,there is no issue there,but u can't help feeling being on my toes all the time when my son is with us.
My husband never had children-he is 45.he is very relaxed and take examples if his friends about parenting but I explained to him every family,children is different.
Feeling sad about it all and wish I knew how to approach this next time.Feel like I am failing all the time :(
Do any if you are in the similar position?
Thank you
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WonderingMama · 03/01/2015 06:31
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