Have name changed for this as I don't want to out myself as I feel so bad about this :(
I've been with DH since DSD was 4, she's now just turned 13.
In the beginning things were great between us, then once I moved in with DH, she would play up every time she visited. But that was understandable, she was jealous etc. As she got older she became more and more difficult, horrible attitude towards me, pushed me around a few times, even at the age of 7/8.
When I was pregnant with DS (she was 9 at the time), she started to say she didn't want to come to ours anymore. This really upset DH and for a while he would just take her out for the day on our weekend with her. But we wanted her to feel integrated into our family so she started coming to stay again just before DS was born. Things were great for a while. She was helpful with DS, she was nice to me, we were all much happier.
When DS reached 18 months and properly started playing with his toys etc, she would do sly little things like snatch a toy off him, or purposely trap his hands in his toy box etc. This would be understandable if she was younger, but she was 11 at the time. She would do things like try to pick him up out of his chair and hurt his arm etc.
It all sound like little things but all together they were starting to make me dislike her.
She seemed to settle down for a while but I'm now pregnant again and its getting worse again. A few times recently DS has fallen over, or hurt himself some other way, and each time she really laughs at him, even though he's crying in pain. She's 13 so I would expect some empathy.
She told DH that she wished I had never got pregnant again as she liked it the way it was before.
All these things I know they sound small, and are quite common of a jealous sibling, half or otherwise. But they are all combining to make me really dislike her. I would never say it to DH but I honestly wouldn't care if she never came round again :(
It doesn't help that she's quite difficult. Eg, she has to be reminded to keep herself clean. She never offers to help at all around the house, even as far as scraping her plate into the bin etc. Even DS at age 3 will do small tasks like scrape his plate, take his dirty clothes to the bathroom etc.
She is constantly in trouble at school as she is rude to her teachers, never does homework etc. DH and DSD's mum are at a loss with her (though they work together well with discipline etc) and I'm just fed up of the whole thing :(
It makes me so sad as I love DH so much and he is such a good husband and father, but part of me wishes I had never got involved with him :( I would never again get into a relationship with a man with children.
Sorry this is so long I just wanted somewhere to rant.
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Really starting to dislike DSD :(
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namechanger15 · 02/01/2015 22:25
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