Hi all,
This is my first post and I have been struggling to find the best place to post so am trying here.
This issue dates back a number of years. I have a son with my ex partner who is now ten years old, due to difficulties in our relationship (violence) and my inability to cope at the time my son went to live with my mother where he has remained since. I enjoy an excellent relationship with my son we spend a lot of time together and have a good mother and son relationship which has been built as well as it possibly could be.
My issue lies with the following:
Five years ago following the breakdown of the relationship with my childs father I met my current partner. He is a nice guy who has a very succesfull career, nice cars, nice house etc, he was raised by parents who were significantly older having him (40 years of age). The issue lies with the fact that his parents have never spoken openly to me about my son, and have never acknowleged the fact that he exists. In all fairness neither have I ever raised the subject with them as I thought that this was my boyfriends place. The first time I met them I could clearly identify that this was not something that they would naturally approve of. The longer time goes on (we are now five years into our relationship) the more this s getting to me and upsetting me to the point where I can't take it anymore. I have discussed it with my partner who has told me that he has allready discussed it with them and they have chosen to bury the matter, I have told him that this has to be addressed and he has told me that he will get round to it which frustrates me further. He also states that he doesn't care what they thing. My main worry is that he hasn't been fully honest with them and he is ashamed of me, or it could be the other way and they are totally disgusted with it. I really don't see how we can ever move forward if this is not addressed.
Any advice I would be most greatful for and sorry if I have posted in the wrong forum!
Thank you!
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arat4378 · 26/12/2014 09:56
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