I've been going out with someone for about six months who has children.
I think I just can't do it?
It's not a value judgement at all but I'm already pissed off (even though they're at the latter stages of uni he seems to have a bit of a "drop everything and run" attitude to them - like they expect him to help with their uni homework etc) and I get the vibe he's going to be at their beck and call indefinitely.
Which is fine, but not working for me. I haven't met them and don't want to (he has offered and they know about me but I'm not interested )
We've agreed to go casual (as in I'm dating other people), but you know when you really like someone and things are almost but not quite perfect and it's hard to really be involved with anyone else?
I think I need a push, I do really like him, things are splendid, but the "children situation" is looming over me like a sword of Damocles and I'm not motivated enough to end things definitively - even though he knows I'm considering other options he is still very available/nice which is a problem?
I'm starting to make catty comments and it isn't how I want to be .
I'm generally happy being single and lots going on in my own life
(that's part of the problem in a way - I get the vibe DP wants to be on call for his adult children "until they reject him" and then just parachute into this new life that I've built myself, which I think will lead to major resentment?)
Can everyone PLEASE give me a stern talking to, advice, slap with wet fish etc? I need motivation.
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suitcaseofdoom · 13/12/2014 00:04
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