Name changed for this as I worry this rant could out me if DP's ex is on here. Apologies in advance for the giant rant but things have been building up and I feel like I'm going to explode!
I've really had enough of DP's ex and the constant shit she pulls. She tried restricting contact the most recent contact weekend, claiming DSS was too ill and unless we made sure to buy cough syrup, calpol etc, we weren't allowed to see him but really she didn't want him leaving the house and would rather we didn't have him even if we did buy the medicine. Fair enough if he's ill that's fine, we'd change our plans (were planning on going christmas shopping amongst other things) and just keep him in, snuggle up and watch a movie for example. Turns out he's been in school all week (if he was that ill I personally as well as DP would have kept him home!) and he's got a little bit of a cough but that's it. And we had a wonderful time with our original plans.
She's always complaining saying DP is a shit Dad who's only interested when it suits him yet every single time DP asks if he can see him more she tells him to fuck off. We currently have DSS every other weekend and despite DP asking her if he can pick him up from school once or twice a week and spend the evening with him, she either ignores him or says no. She recently told DP it was DSS's parents evening, then the day before she sent him a text saying how it had gone and when he questioned her and said wtf I thought it was tomorrow, she said no it was today. Confused DP phoned school next day and DSS's teacher told him there hasn't been a parents evening yet, they simply gave out school progress sheets and gave an additional one to DSS's Mum to give to him.
The latest argument was regarding the clothes / shoes DSS was wearing. DP picked him up after school for the weekend and he had on a massively oversized super thin tracksuit type jacket and holey shoes. We've recently bought him a waterproof coat so goodness knows where that is. Mum said he's lost both the waterproof one and his nice thick warm one. Asked her if she was going to buy a new one as well as new shoes and if not we'd take him shopping. She said no but it's fine if we want to go shopping. DSS chose the shoes himself and first thing he said to me (DP was in work) was when I see Mummy can I show her my new shoes please, in a super excited voice. He was so proud of them and couldn't wait to show her. When DP dropped him off the next evening, Mum took one look and shot him down saying "he can't wear those! He'll just have to wear his holey ones." For goodness sake they're plain black velcro shoes!! Poor DSS was so excited to tell her too!! Apparently though, DP is a childish dumbass just looking for an argument when he complained about their son being sent to school in inappropriate clothes in the cold and wet. Apparently he's acting like a martyr because he actually bought him something for once (not to mention the fact his entire school uniform was bought by us as well as every single pair of shoes he's owned in the last year but of course he never buys anything...). m
I absolutely hate her attitude lately. Since she had a new baby she just doesn't seem to give a shit about DSS and wants nothing more than to piss off DP. She complains she can't afford new shoes etc for DSS whilst simultaneously spending hundreds to a thousand on an engagement ring because she thinks it'll piss DP off her parading around with a big engagement ring. He couldn't care less as long as she's putting her children (including DSS's brother who's not DP's) first! He only cares about the fact her and her fiance's relationship is so on and off and if it becomes permanently off DSS will be the one hurt! If DP and I ever got to the point where we couldn't provide for DSS because of our wedding plans, we'd happily bring our wedding back to just the ceremony (which is already booked and paid for) and forget every other part of it as the most important person is DSS!
There is so much more to it than this but I think I've had a long enough rant for now! It's just frustrating and the amount of times she's upset DSS just to wind up DP is unbelievable! It really upsets DP and I the way she treats DSS. DSS gets visibly upset with her attitude at times and we'd do anything to protect him from it all, but there's nothing more we can do! I seriously hope and pray she gets her act together and sorts it out before DSS is old enough to truly realise and remember. My Mum had to grow up knowing her Mum (my Nan) barely gave a shit about her and only cared about her brother and sister who had a different Dad. It was awful for her and I really pray DSS doesn't have to go through that :(
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JustHadEnoughNow · 02/12/2014 11:59
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