Please someone listen to me ramble.
I don’t understand how to be a stepmother or how this is all supposed to work… We have been together for three years but living together for just a few months. We have shared care 50/50 for all three dc (two mine/1 DH’s).
DSD is 16 (mine are considerably younger). She is a good girl but very immature (tries to get into our bed / cannot remotely fend for herself – which I find frustrating). She is very clingy to her dad and to me. Even though this might sound lovely, I find it quite tiring and REALLY difficult to be warm towards her. I just feel that I am “mothered out” with my own children and don’t have the energy to ‘give’ to her all the time. This makes me feel like a horrible person! :(
I don’t think she is very happy but she really doesn’t have many friends (or social skills to be honest) and I just don’t have the patience for her that I do for my own DCs. I also find myself really wanting to do things with my own DCs without her around all the time. This is partly because she really don’t have many social skills and does tend to make social situations quite awkward.
AIBAHS? (Am I being a horrible stepmother?!)
I think I don't really know how I am supposed to DO the stepmothering thing. It feels really draining.
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I feel 'mothered out' with my own children ... don't have energy for stepmothering
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Onthedoorstep · 04/11/2014 20:41
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